People can still love the children they adopt. They may include the pros and cons of adoption or the issue of child adoption by homosexual couples, which is a goal of gay adoption essay. You above all others have such a unique perspective on this subject, thank you for sharing it. Adoption is also a lifelong process. The question of adoption or fostering by LGBT whether living with a partner or not remains controversial. I know an orphan, and she was put through a lot of stress emotionally because of her parents' demise. No, people should not adopt children. Not a damn thing! Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on April 19, 2020: Thank you Peggy! Some child will be quite lucky. My husband, however, is not for it so much. If you cannot love an adopted child, then you obviously can't love your spouse. While the debate about the effects has been hotly contested, most people likely see the issue as a continuous aspect of adoption research. Had many broken bones and my biological mother is now in jail until I am 18, My biological father is out of prison i'm scared that one day they'll try and get me back. Another problem that adoption can address is our increasing population. In other words, to borrow an oft-used phrase, I have game with regards to adoption. It is not always an easy process and requires patience and perseverance. What language is that? A meta-analysis concluded that adopted children do not have lower self-esteem. In my field there seems to be a definite trend of those who conceived via IVF having children (sometimes multiple births) with developmental delays or serious health issues. It's so sad, Some of them need parents but sometime's they could not afford kids.Some of them are very busy that they have no time for kids.Some of them are too lazy for kids or no responsibility to take care of kids.They can also be troublemakers or naughty or sometimes can be ghosts possessing tham. Catherine Taylor from Canada on November 12, 2012: Oh bb, how is it that I am just coming to this hub now? I do not claim to be an adoption expert but I do claim to have a certain perspective regarding this topic and it is that perspective I will give you now. An example, If a woman is raped and doesn't choose abortion. Even with 52,000 adoptions in 2012, 102,000 were still legally ready for adoption with no parental rights' strings attached. She now lives with her sister instead of adoptive parents, and has lost the feeling of being raised by two blood parents. Human Rights Watch. In many cases, an adoption will also be beneficial for the birthparents, but, mostly it is going to change your life completely in a very positive way. They need parents just like any of us do. This was a great article. to Bev. There are already about 325,701,439 people on this earth already. I guess there will be another hub coming to finish this one. My son will tell anyone who listens that the person he respects most in this world is his father, and he has told me on numerous occasions that he would not be who he is if it were not for my love. Jut before she got married my sister made the decision to contact him and meet him. Older children who have been in foster homes come with their own baggage and the degree of psychological scars that they carry can be unsettling at best and a deal-breaker at worst. It is a lifelong commitment that should not be taken lightly. It is great that you are sharing your story about being adopted with us. You see, I truly am one of the lucky ones! Feelings of distrust, resentment and abandonment, to name just three, are quite common and may require years of healing. "All Happy Families". This really inspire me. I was on hand with them when they took their last breaths and for that I am grateful because during their lifetimes they dedicated every breath to me, their adopted son. In this thoughtful book, sociologist Katarina Wegar offers a new perspective on adoption and the search debate, placing them within a social context. It brought us a marvelous daughter. I plan to adopt an older child in the next few years. Many parents wonder if, when, and how to tell their child they were adopted, which are commonly asked questions in adoption communities. Parents with adopted children might not realize this behavior is a rite of passage for teens, and be more apt to blame it on their adopted child’s biological parents. 100+ Debate Topics to Choose From. Also, some people believe that their life is unfulfilled without a child. A debate on issues regarding the new ISO 45001:2018 standard adoption. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 05, 2015: Hopefully he will, Emily. By giving up a child for adoption, you are cutting a potentially beautiful bond between blood parent and blood child. "Bruce Willis. Here is how to get licensed, and the different approaches towards foster parent adoptions. 16 January 2013 Last updated at 16:52 Help. Or if their being abused in the household then they should also be adopted because of that. Aurelio Locsin from Orange County, CA on March 06, 2012: Thank you for this honest assessment from adoption -- you have much credibility on the topic since you approach it from two sides. I'd never have thought of it at that age and had only negative views of adoption from various ones I had observed. Peeples from South Carolina on March 26, 2012: Great hub but if you don't mind I wanted to add something. International adoption first started being broadcast to the American public during the proxy wars of the 1950s Cold War. I am a huge advocate for adoption, the poster child for a good adoption, and I can't imagine what life would have been like if my adopted parents hadn't done what they did. I would've probably never been adopted because my country had to many laws against national adoption. As a previous teen foster child I have some insight into what we can do to help. Adoption is also saving a child's life, because children will suffer if they don't have a parent, or guardian. In some cases this is not possible, in others it is. This article is about our journey with our adopted child and our experiences of a "primal wound." You have listed some suggestions that will help parents with interest to make an informed decision. Yes, it is a very broken system, and I hope one day to see it running efficiently and fairly. Thank you! Thanks for sharing from your heart and for being honest in your telling of your experience. My birth parents loved me, and I know that.., but I'm glad they chose to let me have a more beneficial life with my current familily. Cons of Adoption There are many children here in the USA and I'm sure there are in other countries too just waiting for a family in their native country to adopt them. If everyone adopted children this world could be more happy. I'm proud that I'm adopted when I was a baby. Thank you for sharing your experiences and I hope one day, if it what you want, that you do adopt. I know there are teen pregnancy cases, but the mother's family can still help take care of the child. I was adopted in 2011, I was abused almost killed! These days, when I make my few, brief visits per week, I am faithful to my special list of HubPals...& thereafter, where ever I'm directed. The mothers who have children "stolen" from them by a broken system and the system collects funds to benefit and profit from children being adopted, even in the cases of the one parent doesn't deserve the enormous pain of having their child taken. Are you prepared for the fallout that will come as this child tries to reconcile a life in a foreign land so far from his/her native land and biological family? I see no problem in adoption. We need more people like you. Take in mind, This woman could only be 13! Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 10, 2013: rd, I'm glad it helped. She went on to have 2 more children and I am so envious that they had a relationship with her that I can never have, even though I should have done. Thank you. I ask this question because you spouse is only connected to you through vows of marriage. But I feel such terrible sorrow for what I lost by not being with her. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 07, 2012: Teaches, I know of no other way. I was her baby before anyone else, yet I cannot claim to be fully hers, ever I don't think. There were no secrets and that is the only way to raise an adopted child; openness and compassion are the keys to avoiding problems that are inherent in the very nature of the institution of adoption. Vol. Gay and heterosexual couples deserve the same legal rights to adopt. It was easier for a foreigner to adopt me than someone who lived in that country. "Pro-choice" emphasizes the right of women to decide whether to terminate a pregnancy. The abstract describes the debate as follows: This chapter is taken from a forthcoming book on Intercountry Adoption, edited by Judith L. Gibbons and Karen Smith Robati and forthcoming in June of 2012. He wanted to provide a chance for a different life for another child. That way, there's no need to have a big revelation when he is older. Complete in One Volume. . Adoption should not be pitied. That would be the crowning glory of my writing career. Her mother cut off all contact with her father so she never knew him. :). Yes you and your son are the lucky ones! Well done is what I think of it. Nothing is more insulting than some random person making the comment "Oh, do you do foster care for the money?". Adoption is a social, emotional, and legal process through which children who will not be raised by their birth parents become full, permanent, and legal members of another family. Thats why i think kids should be adopted. I regret having not fought the state to this day. I am fully aware that there are many success stories regarding these types of adoptions but I am also painfully aware of living nightmares that have happened. I was adopted by loving parents who raised me with love and who continually supported me. There are many reasons why orphans are orphans and the reasons why they are orphans happen due to multiple things. I have often said, "I should write a book with all of the things people have asked me about adoption." Question: When I am an adult, I was thinking of adopting. It's pointless having to create more children if we can just adopt ones that are desperately wanting a home. If this hub helps one person then it was well-worth writing it. "Adopting Premises. . This can cause as much mental trauma as losing their parents by death, as giving up a kid might convince it that it isn't loved enough to be raised by their proper families. There is one view that such applicants should not be excluded from consideration providing they can satisfy an agency that they can provide a home in which a child’s interest would be safeguarded and promoted. Through different circumstances, we were led to adopt from China in 2002 and 2004, when that was quite an open option. What age do you think is good for adoption? It was heartwrenching to see it. By using this site, you agree to our Privacy Policy and our Terms of Use. danajconnelly from Family and Parenting on March 07, 2012: "I've got game..." Awesome. I hope your summer has been a good one so far...as for this article, I'm always shocked when someone reads one of mine and is positively affected by it...it is a small world because of the internet, isn't it? Slate.com. Ive been working on a hub related to this but find too many of my personal views creeping in. Thank you kind lady! It is so nice to hear adoption success stories. Oh Yes, buddy. For some, adoption means family, love, and a chance at a full life. i have to do a debate and i am supposed to be the "negative" and against gay adoption truthfully..i am for gay adoption but i still have to go against it..so i was wondering if you guys could help me with some cons on gay adoption. It is wrong to say that an orphan only belongs to its biological parents. I may not have been adopted, but there is a family at my church that has adopted and fostered multiple children and love each and everyone of them as their own. 4 Controversial Topics Surrounding Adoption. The father was someone who had "aged out" in foster care and never been adopted. Experience and advice from mom of 5 children. This is because you could make a difference in a childs life. My debate on gay couples adopting. I mean- Why would I think about how bad my life could've been if I weren't adopted ? While this isn't a book, it is a short list of a few questions that I wished I hasn't been asked. Someone has to keep an eye on you. My mother died in 2003. Thank you! For this debate I say it means all accepted couples are legally required to adopt at least one child and will be fined, say 50, after being together 25 years if they do not comply without adequate reason (not legal or no children to adopt). My (step)sister entered our family at about 4 years old. You are committing to a lifetime of love and care and if you are not prepared to give the adopted child 100% … I have to biological brothers they live with me. :) Thank you! I believe that for the most part, adopted children are given a second chance of a life which will hopefully be better, than what they may have had with the birth parent (s). Others view adoption as unethical, illegal, and damaging with the potential for dire results. Even though there are many couples who are unable to have children of their own, adoption is not the answer. Chloe, that's a tough age to be adopted. :) Thank you my dear; it means a lot to me when you visit and comment. If you want to adopt a child you will probably have to wait, sometimes a long time. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on November 12, 2012: Thunder my friend, if you raise a child with love then you have no worries about how they feel about you. Thanks for answering my question with a Hub! What is the debate concerning international child adoption? The Debates on the Adoption of the Federal Constitution in the Convention held at Philadelphia in 1787, with a Diary of the Debates of the Congress of the Confederation as reported by James Madison, revised and newly arranged by Jonathan Elliot. One would think since I have had nothing but positive results from adoption that I would be a complete flag-waving advocate for adoption but that simply is not the case. There are all sorts of things you have to consider when picking a subject: whether you'll be able to talk for long enough about it, how excited you feel about it, how easy it will be to research, what your English teacher will think of it, and much more. Adoption can decrease the speed of the increasing population. Overpopulation poses many great risks which we really need to avoid! I would've probably become a prostitute in all honesty. It is a wondrous institution that has saved millions of lives around the world and it is my fervent hope that millions more will be saved, nurtured and loved as my son and I were. We have had a very good experience but know that it will be a lifelong process of helping our girls grieve and understand their grief. In many cases, It is impossible or it's just a bad choice. It all turned our all right, me thinks. Also I'm writing a paper about adoption and it really help me understands more and more about adoption. Are you intimately familiar with the child’s native culture? Transracial adoption as a phenomenon has a short, volatile history in North America. We need to adopt!!!!!!!!!! Out of all of those people, 140,000,000 of the people are orphans. Episode 16: Parenthood. As a rule, essays on adoption examine the two types of adoption, namely closed or confidential adoption and open adoption that has gained popularity since the early 1980s. It is based on Nancy Verrier's work on adopted children and her explanation of the "the primal wound.". I consider the fact that there are reasons why some cannot conceive naturally. One additional thing people need to condier is how to handle it if and when the child wants to find their birth parents. How long do they stay in foster care? I want reasoning for saying no. I hope you get your chance. Should you adopt? Jeffrey A. Tucker. A full state-by-state list plus more. Below you will find links to sites that list dozens of books for kids, adults, families, and classrooms. Stay that way for awhile...and if your travels ever bring you to Olympia, you sure as hell better visit your brother. "Too many children in foster care are falling through cracks. . This is not a decision to be taken lightly and may the gods bless anyone willing to adopt an older child and work through the emotional problems that are inherent in this process. Thank you for your kind words; if this hub helps any adopted child, or parent, then it was well-worth writing. Welcome and thank you for commenting....we need more active members in this community of writers. I, personally would love to adopt, it's something I've wanted to do since I was a little girl. I posted this in another debate, and there was some confusion. I could not respond to your Question, bill bro, for obvious reasons. It's important to treat your adopted child like the intelligent human being she is and give her the opportunity to own her truth. The debate over transracial adoption has not changed greatly in the last two decades and mirrors a similar debate decades ago over adoptions that crossed religious lines. I believe there are some couples who do not have the right stuff to adopt just as I believe there are couples who should not be parents in any way, shape or form. Even though there are many couples who are unable to have children of their own, adoption is not the answer. I'm really not a fan for overseas adoption either. The chapter constitutes a debate between Professor Elizabeth Bartholet and … Who are they staying with? The depth of … My mother, aged 19, had no resources or support so felt she had no choice but to give me away, but if I had been cared for temporarily, until she was in a position to take care of me herself, I would have been able to live the life I should have had, instead of being taken away from her. Her biological father, and his daughter, attended the wedding. Fri 10 Nov 2017 "You want them to like you." Thank you so much! Isn't it possible to simply treat the adoption as a casual topic when the child is very young, like discussing the color of his hair? The proposition for this debate is that international adoption should be banned. The depth of feeling just is not there. The looming battle over gay parenting." It's the same thing as having a child you haven't adopted. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on December 09, 2014: K, I'm very happy to hear you were adopted by a loving family. Virginia Kearney from United States on March 07, 2012: Terrific Hub--you really cover a lot of ground and make some very good observations from the perspective of adoptive parent and adoptee. DanaTeresa, an excellent point you make. Déjà vu all over again! Adoption benefits the well being of a child too. Firstly, adoptive parents attracted to international adoption because of ethnic diversity, availability of foreign children, eligibility as adoptive parents, permanence and irreversibility of the adoption. I wish you the best....any old time you need to "talk," drop me a line. Your act was out of love and concern for them. It has taken me many years to be able to respond to this beautifully written hub on adoption. I enjoyed reading your hub, it was very organized with lots of information. The reality is, I've been looking for someone to adopt me! These are but a few of the considerations that need to be considered before adopting and please, if there is an inkling of doubt, do not adopt. When I was thirty-six my wife and I adopted a baby boy, three days of age, and that child is now a healthy, intelligent and loving man of twenty-seven. I am so happy that you have adopted one of us. I like how you remained informative without proselytizing. It's doing the right thing, and everybody should do the right thing. Sad facts about our foster children and the foster care system. Abortion is a safe medical procedure. My father died in 1969 when I was twenty years old. To give love to a human being that is not biologically related to you and to sacrifice everything for the safety and well-being of that child is one of the finest forms of humanness I can think of. Debate on adoption. In English-speaking countries, the sides involved in the debate are the self-described "pro-choice" and "pro-life" movements. You have the child, you raise the child. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 26, 2012: Virginia, I agree completely and thank you for the addition and perspective. So much good can come from it, but there are sad stories as well. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on February 26, 2020: I'm happy to hear that, Lakiya! Adoption is not an alternative to abortion because it remains the woman's choice whether or not to give her child up for adoption. If you are scared of not being able to love an adopted child as much as a biological child, think about your marriage. There will always be serious considerations concerning parenting in general but with adoption one is making the commitment to love a child that is not biologically yours. It is not possible for families to feel the same bond with an adopted child as they would if the child were their own. Voting this Up and Useful. I'm an oversea adopted child. I love what you have to say on this subject - it's your specialty. Thank you for this. I am, myself, adopted and it was difficult for me to 'adopt' my parents but I'm grateful that they have taken me under their wings. As a prospective foster parent, you should know that foster care case workers may not tell you everything they could. Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on April 05, 2019: Well chosen words Bill Cautiously is the way to proceed I have friends who were adopted and who have adopted and thankfully the story has turned out well for both But as you say adoption is not something that should be entered into with out serious consideration. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on June 21, 2018: Contented is nice as hell, Sis! I still am not sure what happened between us (muse & I)...but I'm not stressing about it. For the purposes of this debate, the proposition will take on the role of the federal government of the USA. I love this article because it reminds me about myself. Adoption is completely giving to another person, with no expectations of what that person can give in return. Why anybody could say, no, im confused. When he was six his mother and I divorced and shortly afterwards he came to live with me so I single-parented him for the remaining years of his childhood and teen years. Peeples, a great addition to my hub and thank you for your insight. This sets the stage for further alienation and strained emotions. Thanks for sharing that with me. Ggj ghgjg gfkdgfk jgkjgirjg oidrej gir tgi gjir jegirej oi rfogirh egh goui rhi ogoirgpir ghpig hpri ghpir hgiorh goir ghorfih goi rheoir ghoi rhgoir hgoigoi rhfgoi rhfoih rfh rfguhrfgh rfogh rgh rghorifh goi rghoigh oigh orifhg oirf hgoirghf gorihrgoigrf hoirgh oih rgfkl. He had horrible separation anxiety. Here are some reasons you should consider being a foster parent of a teen foster child. I choose to live in the moment & I'm sure there are reasons for that, but it doesn't eat me alive. (I also discussed it in a podcast. The answer is we shouldn't. My half-brother and I were adopted last year and i was 14 years old. FOR Gay Adoption: AGAINST Gay Adoption: 1 – EQUAL RIGHTS MEANS JUST THAT. She did it very gracefully. We were both told about our adoptions in the most loving of ways and it did not adversely affect either of us. An Illinois couple have sued an adoption agency here, charging that it withheld the psychiatric history of their adopted son's natural parents. The older the child the more problems you are apt to have. Yea there are so many kids with no parents we need to stand up and do the right thing now. If my hub helped in any way then I am happy and grateful. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on February 02, 2014: greeneyedblondie, a high school Hubber....we don't see many of those here at HP. No need to pass on these genes. Wherever possible children should remain with their birth mother. V. Supplement to Elliot’s Debates (Philadelphia, 1836). People tend to miss the most important reason to adopt internationally: you are literally saving a life. My son was lucky. Great hub :) Voted up and awesome! The information here is priceless coming from "you," especially, as a man who can not only explain the options, reasons and results, but speak from your heart on the big picture. Thank you for sharing your experience with us all, and best wishes to you in the future. Adoption is an easy way to get a child. In the United States, for example, legislation to prevent adoption by LGBT people has been introduced in many jurisdictions; such efforts have largely been defeated. As such, adoption involves the rights of three distinct "triad members": the birth parents, the child, and the adoptive parents. Round 1: This House believes that Adoption Agencies that receive state funding should give priority to same sex couples and infertile couples.Round 2: This House would ban the use of armed combat … Read more Oxford IV 2010 motions For more information, purchase my book on adoption in Kindle format. If we don't adopt, the earth could get way too crowded. It is a slippery slope, that adoption thing. Thank you Bill, i honestly appreciate the fact that have adopted one of us. January 24th, 2008. The deputy minister for children was urged to consider creating and independent adoption service on 16 January 2013. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on April 04, 2017: Nathaniel, I'm so glad to hear that. With that cleared up, I want to say a few things about the debate over international adoption, which I wrote about in this week’s magazine. Feb. 7, 2002; Julian Sanchez. German authorities continue public debate in view of the adoption of a more flexible approach to dual nationality, and encouraged them to examine the application, in practice, of the criteria for naturalisation in order to address any possible patterns of excessively restrictive … It is not possible for families to feel the same bond with an adopted child as they would if the child were their own. Saletan. Those are success stories of the highest order with regards to adoption. Also having children after a certain age increases such risks. International adoption first started following the end of World War 2 and the start of the early Cold War. Love ya, Sis. In fact, I'm feeling pretty contented. Thank you and blessings always. Many would-be parents opt for adopting an older child and I would love to say that this always works out but that would be a lie. And I'm freaking glad I wasn't adopted by someone in my country. I only hope that my adopted children feel the same about me that you and your son feel. I missed my mummy all my life and when I traced her last year, aged 44, I felt complete for the first time in my life. I teach college age students and find that many of them are very interested in considering adoption as part of their way to create a family. Answer: I think you did the best thing you could, considering the circumstances. Voted up. Be a hero, take the time learn about adoption today. Yes I want to visit my home country once it becomes safe and stable again. This has been in response to a question I was asked: "What are the reasons you would or would not adopt" I hope I have given you something to think about. This often leaves them unprepared for … There are two answers to this question entirely because of how it's worded.1.If the parents are dead.Yes, this is a horrible thing to say, but in the age of guns and weaponry, people get killed, and then others can become fatally ill. International adoption is more predictable, usually taking less than two years. The sneaky debate over legalizing adoptions by gay couples." That may not seem important while inhaling the wonderful thoughts of parenthood but it is a very real factor that needs to be addressed. We NEED to adopt! Parliamentary debate on the practice of 'forced adoption' in the UK Published: Thursday 12th July 2018 Dr Carol Homden, CBE, CEO of Coram comments ahead of today's (12.07) parliamentary debate on the practice of 'forced adoption' which took place in the UK primarily in the 1950s and 60s I know a family that adopted a small child from Central America. The adoption of children by LGBT people is an issue of active debate. In the severe case of parental death, than adoption should be entirely legal and right.2. Allow me to give you a little background so you won’t think I’m just whistling in the dark without any qualifications to speak of. Gibberish of course! The abortion debate is the ongoing controversy surrounding the moral, legal, and religious status of induced abortion. Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 06, 2012: Darn it Cyndi, I thought alcoholism was my specialty??? According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, 641,000 children lived in foster care in 2012. Bring up adoption and you’re bound to draw out differing opinions on a variety of topics surrounding adoption as well as the very act itself. Thanks for touching up on that. If the parent(s) give the child up.In the case of the mother (usually) giving up the child, adoption is completely unnecessary. 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